birthdays, life and reflection

Images Yesterday was my friends birthday.  We always spend the day together doing something.  Every year each of us make the attempt to come up with something new and different but it is really more about spending the day together.  We had breakfast, massages, facials, coffee, a little jewelry shopping and then dinner with more people that evening.  A really nice day.

As we get older, I can't help but reflect.  Perhaps reflect is the wrong word.  I am looking at where I am in my life as well as people in my generation and where they are at.  You can't help but wonder what do I want the next 10 years to look like.  From my birds eye view, I see men and women looking at where they are in their lives very differently.  So many men I know are working on getting in really good shape.  Kind of funny.  Maybe they are wondering where that six-pack they had in High School went. 

Years ago I took a look at my daily schedule and realized how much time was devoted to my kids and family life.  Thinking about the future I saw that amount of time getting smaller as the years passed.  Having 3 kids under your roof vs none.  For me, it is a slow peel out as the kids exit.  I began to plan where I wanted to be once I had an empty nest. 

At the end of the day, it is all about identity.  If someone had told me 30 years ago that I would be doing what I am doing or just giving me a heads up on my daily life, I would have laughed.  You just never know where life takes you or how the decisions you make affect your life. 

This year, perhaps because I see my life changing as my kids get older and they are so independent, will be one where lots of thought over the foundation and seeds I am planting for the next ten years will take place.  Maybe because my Mom died so recently it has forced me to want to embrace each moment as well as make sure that I do feel positive about my identity.  Who knows but I do know that these days I am spending lots of time in my head thinking about where, what, why and what's next.