The importance of mentors at every level
Not sure how we started talking about this but someone told me this story this week and it made me think about the importance of mentors at any level.
This story took place probably 25 years ago. The woman who told me this story was attending Cornell University. She grew up with a buttoned up Korean family who had moved to the states when she was a young girl. They landed in Northern California. When she got to college, she was rooming with a young African American woman who had come from upstate NY. This woman was one in a family of twelve kids who would definitely go under the underserved category. It was huge that she got to Cornell.
At Cornell, this particular African American woman had never sat down and ate a meal off of ceramic plates. At home, they ate in shifts off paper plates. She had no idea about etiquette at a table that just comes naturally to most people. She also had a beautiful dress that she bought on layaway. It had taken her six months to buy that dress. The woman I know had never even heard of layaway. She had no idea that you could buy something like that. On parents weekend, the entire family of the African American woman came up for the weekend and all of them stayed in the rooms of each of her roommates.
This is one of the greatest things about going to college. You meet people from all different walks of life and it is enlightening to everyone no matter which side you sit on. Here is what is more amazing. One day they were talking about what they wanted to do when they graduated. The woman I know knew exactly what she wanted to do, she wanted to go to medical school. The African American woman wanted to be a secretary because she had an aunt who was a secretary and she had done the best among her extended family. A secretary with a degree from Cornell. That was as big as she could think. The woman I know was shocked.
Unfortunately I wish there was an end to this story where I can tell you that this young African American woman who was able to go to Cornell ended up doing something spectacular but I can't because the woman I know isn't sure where she ended up. What this tells me is that the importance of mentors is everywhere.
Meeting and talking to people who have done something so different than what you know opens your eyes to endless possibilities. Not sure if they do that at colleges and universities around the country but they should. How do you help people get out of what they know and what they grew up with and realize that they can and should reach for the stars.
I love the post, Joanne. A topic that is very close to my heard.I believe the world is our family – we just have to be open. Of course we have mom, dad, siblings, grandparents etc but the family can be as big as we imagine it.And this family can, and will change our lives. It has in my case..
Was this not in her freshman year prior to the next several years of what most probably was a lot of self actualization? Too bad your friend cannot follow up! Your message remains most poignant!
there is always facebook!
but of course… 😉
Mentors can mean all the difference. Worked for me starting in middle school and continues to this day (39 now). These influences in our lives can have a dramatic impact. For me a Big Brother, for others a college Professor but in any case, this is an ecosystem of sorts. Less organized as it is widely dispersed but a cycle nonetheless.A great example in the tech world is TechGirlz in Philly. http://www.techgirlz.org/ You can read about it if you choose but this tech related mentorship program is transcending multiple barriers. This but one example of course. This is a roadmap for the participants not only as students and future professionals but as future mentors as well.
I could cheer for this post! Mentors make all of the difference. We are five people at our company now but I’ve made sure everyone has a mentor in their respective roles. It’s like everyone has a therapist, a teacher, and a cheerleader. I love knowing that we all have that outside support.
having one or even two mentors is crucial for anyone professional and personal development. I am fortunate to have such a mentor for the past 3 years and he has completely changed my mindset for the better.
I love the post Joanne, but your title has a very tiny typo mistake 🙂 (change ‘are’ to ‘at’)
You are right. Thanks
I just sold my first photograph at a gallery exhibit in SF. Fanny is an artist here and she is not a photographer. I have contributed photographs for sale in 3 other exhibits with her. She has been my mentor for exhibiting choosing photograph arranging it framing it pricing. This photograph had her frame and I Completely followed her ideas for it. When it sold last night she was as happy as if it were her painting. We all need mentors sometimes we just don’t realize it. She is a gift to me and she says I inspire her. Judy
Mentorship works both ways.Congrats on your sale!