Anne-Marie Slaughter, Womens Entrepreneur Festival
The Womens Entrepreneur Festival was kicked off last night by my co-chair, Nancy Hechinger, who described bold in a way that makes you think and makes you laugh. She teed it up for Anne-Marie Slaughter who gave an inspiring speech about care and commitment and taking everything we think about gender roles and turning it on its head. Lots to think about in these speeches. Worth the look.
I watched it live yesterday, and enjoyed every part of her talk. The message that stuck with me was that Care + Competition equalizes men and women. It’s not one vs. the other.
me too. I also liked the idea that life is like cross training. everyone can get off the train and take a rest at some point of their career or even several.
yes, that one made me wonder about the rat race i feel i’m in sometimes.
When Anne Marie Slaughter spoke to my daughter’s girl’s school parents last year she made two main points.One, we have not solved caregiving vs breadwinning adequately in couples raising families. Secondly, the women’s movement is yet to mature since we have not solved the first point allowing for men to have different roles in caregiving and breadwinning. She asks how women expect to manage fulfilling careers without a family 2.0 or 3.0 approach to sharing the load of household and family.She felt many men were ready to have this discussion, especially in newer, younger couples, as well as older men who had daughters really grokking the need for these shifts. I found it super astute and positive.I’ll now go watch your livestream. Enjoy WE!
since we have not solved the first point allowing for men to have different roles in caregiving and breadwinning.Possible but I don’t see this as changing anytime soon. It’s to brainwashed into the way people think and really the way women think.And in all honesty isn’t that a function of the particular woman who has career ambitions (or other types of achievement) allowing herself to fall in with a man who has less ambition and is willing to be a “house husband”?My 2nd wife’s ex husband was perfectly happy giving up his law degree and taking care of the kids. But my 2nd wife didn’t want to be married to someone who only wanted that out of life.You want to know something? She actually was attracted to me because of the hours that I work and because she knew very clearly when we were dating that I wasn’t going to do all of that kid stuff. (And she takes care of it and our relationship is great).While I’ve given anecdotal examples for sure nothing in my experience over the years indicates that there is a large group of women out there who respect men who don’t earn a living.What do you see?
I see the bigger “us” needing to talk more as individuals, before we get in deep, about what we see, what of it we like, what we’d toss, and whether the “we” involved agrees we can hack a solution together.If not, hit the ‘next!” button!
I just wish the women’s movement would pick up on that
The movement is made of individuals, you and me and GG. We broker what we need specifically, within the framework of what Slaughter suggests, *if* we agree with that. And we promote it to those we know if so. GG has a spouse and kids and I’m sure debates many things with them. as a spouse and role model (not speaking for you here GG, just a for instance). And hence the new world is crafted with one decision at a time, on a road to a better place.You and I had a debate other night about marriage, and I am speaking from my own experience and from agreeing deeply with Slaughter.Throw out the damn rulebook. It was meant for uncreative cretins unlike yourself. I threw it out a while back and feel light as a feather. Would never go back.You’re a smart cookie. Have faith in yourself, and broker what you need with a warm heart, a pragmatic nature, and the smile that says I want this to work. And then it will.
if we are having the conversation then eventually we will