Motherhood and Parenthood

This past weekend there was an article in the NYTimes by Karen Rinaldi called Motherhood Isn’t Sacrifice, It’s Selfishness.  The article had an outpouring of comments online, 1340 last time I looked.  Obviously, this topic shoots straight to the heart.

Perhaps because of the business we are in, we have a lot of friends who are just starting to have children or have kids in their pre-teens even though our kids are young adults already.  I love watching them interact with their children and seeing them as parents as we are not those family friends who come over with our gang in tow but see them socially, sans-children.

Parenting is certainly not for the faint of heart.  It isn’t easy to say no to someone you love with your heart and soul, it isn’t easy to set boundaries, teach good behavior, set examples and above all nurture them on their own journies. There is constant bumps in the road, emotional turmoil, never ending days, exhaustion, worry and above all hard work.

It is different for everyone and that is certainly obvious from the slew of comments around the article.  Parenting is a privilege and a responsibility that should not be taken lightly.  As a mother, I stopped working at two times during my career and the hardest part was maintaining my own sense of self during those periods.  The importance of keeping that is not only significant to yourself, it is important for your children to see their parent as their own person.  That makes for a good role model as parents are the ultimate and only role models for their child’s early years and if you are lucky, for life.

Of all the things that I have done to date, having children is the best and more rewarding thing I have ever done.  It made me see the world differently, it opened my emotional flood gates that needed to be opened, it gave me a different sense of family, it pushed me to create healthier relationships particularly learning from them as young adults, to be self-reflective and so much more.

I do not see parenting as a sacrifice but an eye-opening experience to teaching, commitment, relationships and above all love.