Different Generations of Men?
Women’s experiences are so completely different than men’s. How women see the world or how we react to a situation is directly tied to our own past experiences. Those experiences started as a young child. If we really want to have equality at every level, we need to start at the beginning.
Each generation of men and women look at the world through a different lens. What one person deems acceptable another deems utterly astonishing.
For some reason, I have been thinking a lot about past experiences and how they made an impact on me and how I reacted to them. There is one particular event that took place over a decade ago that made it to the top of my mind recently. It says something about different generations of men.
I went to a dinner to celebrate the closing of funding for a company. They are nice things to do particularly at the Series A round. I was a bit under the weather at that dinner because I had some minor surgery the day before so not sure I was completely there.
One of the largest investor, who by the way never got involved with the company one iota, asked me if I was going to write a book about my husband. Someone else had just done that who he knew, second marriage and the first wife wrote a novel around her husband’s life and it was quite controversial. A million things went through my mind. First being that he was certainly being dismissive about my own personal investing as if it was just a hobby, frivolous, doing it for my husband. Second, we were having steak and my first thought was do I just ignore him or do I take the steak knife and lean over the table and stab him through the chest. I decided the stabbing probably wasn’t a good thing.
The founder was shocked by the entire interaction. Fast forward, the company grew and the financial outcome was a win-win for everyone involved. There is a lot of history here but the investor gave me huge credit for my involvement that he went on to invest in other companies that I am involved with. He really gave me the nod.
Did I earn my respect or was it always there? Was that behavior just one of a particular generation of men? Not that it makes it ok but it is worth noting. Time has passed and my own personal confidence has risen way above that type of fray but perhaps because of the me-too voices, this evening has made its way up to the forefront of my thoughts vs the deep hard drive of my brain.
Different times, different conversations and hopefully more acknowledgment and respect than stupidity that isn’t mean-hearted but just unaware.