Family Dynamics

Family dynamics are different in every single family. As I was saying to a friend the other night “what is a normal family”? Normal is just a concept. Everyone has their own baggage, their own history, their own family relationships from the same family. It is what makes us all unique.

Our kids went to LREI from k-12. There is an annual event called Love Makes A Family. I always loved it. Kids post photos, poems, and stories about their individual families through the walls of the school. The student body is unique to most NYC school private schools. It is extremely liberal and open to everyone and anyone. It is engrained in the culture. It is one of the reasons we sent our kids there.

The photos are of two Moms, two Dad’s, Uncles and Aunts and Grandparents all living with very different family units but it is each of those students family; their foundation.

Family dynamics have shifted dramatically over the past decade. More is accepted (thank god) and nobody except older generations who are stuck in a time or are not open-minded, care as much about how people live their own life.

We saw two films in the past week. One is Roma, an absolutely gorgeous visual film about the director’s family and his parents separation, when he was a teen in Mexico City. He tells the story through the eyes of their maid. It is a layered film that looks at family dynamics including wealth, poverty and class welfare. It is fantastic.

The other film is Shoplifting. This film is also about family dynamics and people struggling to get by. This family is connected through random events. Great film as well.

Both films have stuck with me. We are living in different times then we were twenty years ago and seeing filmmakers expose and tell stories of how lives are being led is thought-provoking and based on political anger against each other these days, these movies are a very good thing.

Comments (Archived):

  1. William Mougayar

    Roma was captivating to watch. What a well-made movie. Wow, the ratings on Shoplifting are off the charts. The other movie we recently saw…on the plane to Asia/Singapore was Crazy Rich Asians, and we loved it too.

    1. Gotham Gal

      Go see Shoplifters. Really good

      1. awaldstein

        I need to see them both, now streaming.The CuarĂ³n family is interesting as both father and son are so talented and working at the same time on projects both together and apart which is quite unusual.One of my best friend’s daughter married the younger Cuaron.How close the circles of our lives come together.

        1. Gotham Gal

          Wow. For sure….one degree

          1. awaldstein

            Yup…And my friend btw was one of the first women in tech who rose to success whose husband stayed home and took on that role while she followed her significant talents. Really unusual twenty years ago.Great family.

  2. Laura Yecies

    Loved Roma – incredibly well done both the story and the cinematography. Looking forward to Shoplifters. Just went to my granddaughter’s preschool story time yesterday and the book was “Love makes a Family” about all kinds of families and living situations – glad to see opening of minds at an early age – so important.

    1. Gotham Gal

      So important. It changed how kids grow up and look at the world with open arms.

  3. Julie Lerner

    Went to The Ferryman last night per your recommendation a while back. Wow, talk about family dynamics. Was on the edge of my seat for three hours (great feat for a play). High school/college was in the 80’s, so was very cognizant of the IRA, but had no real understanding of the impact on families. Love an opportunity to be entertained and to learn something as well.

    1. Gotham Gal

      I just loved that play. Riveting!

  4. Pointsandfigures

    The out of wedlock child birth percentage in the US is a gigantic problem. Boys growing up without fathers is a huge problem.