One of the most important and hardest jobs hands down is parenting. Parenting has changed dramatically over the past 50 years. Mostly it is a function of the times we live in as women have joined the workforce as equals although the emotional piece never changes. And because of that there is a lot of guilt, stress, exhaustion, frustration, expectation and uncertainty.
I just read that children with hyper-involved parents have more anxiety and less satisfaction with life. Children who play unsupervised build better social skills, emotional maturity and feel more comfortable spending time by themselves. None of this is surprising to me.
Kids deserve the ability to find themselves without harming themselves. Giving kids long ropes to discover their own cadence by entertaining themselves, understanding the expectations put on them to giving them the tools to teach them, letting them figure out their own social issues although being there as a sounding board and a shoulder to cry on, and at the same time making sure you as a parent get your own time and your life so the kids are not your entire being is important for everyone.
Raise kids with wings to fly. Don’t clip those wings so tight that they falter out of the nest. It isn’t a good look.