Shrinks and Sex

There are handful of subjects that most children are told growing up that are not to be discussed. Money would be the third topic next to shrinks and sex but that has changed. Why?

Is it the wave of health and wellness? Is it the wave of CEO coaches? Have we become less uptight? Is it just the from the rise of sharing so much information on social media apps? My guess it is a combination of all of the above.

Just noting that New Yorkers have never had a problem talking about their shrinks. The culture across the country these days is all about health and wellness. Meditation has taken off and being mentally healthy has always been insanely important but it has become the social norm to have a healthy mental relationship with yourself. Millennials and Generation Z are just more open.

Well, we can start with the Catholic Church having a serious reckoning. Having sex is important to have. Abusers have been able to hide for ever because sex was just something nobody talked about. The tide has turned and discussing sexual abuse is applauded. The young woman at Columbia University dragged a mattress around campus after being ignored by the University over a supposed rape. That she felt comfortable and empowered enough to do that was a culture shift.

Money, well that is an entirely different topic as the backlash to the wealthy tech moguls is not looking very pretty. There will always be someone who has more than another and someone who has less. Being honest about what you can afford to do and sharing all that information with integrity and transparency to your children in different ways from the time they are young to the teenage years to the young adult years is essential for anyone to have a healthy relationship with cash.

The sharing society has had some really positive results. I believe that being honest and transparent about shrinks, sex, and money with your friends and family is the step in the right direction.

Comments (Archived):

  1. Susan Rubinsky

    I think I was lucky. My Mom kept a copy of “The Sex Atlas” on our coffee table in the 70’s when I was growing up. This made our home very popular among my friends. Money, on the other hand, was never discussed and it’s something I wish had been.The Sex Atlas –

    1. Gotham Gal

      Love it.

      1. Pointsandfigures

        Yup, not a lot of folks discuss money. It’s why we invested in Joanne would love the CEO

  2. Laura Yecies

    The inability to discuss sex sets the stage for abuse – if people find it shameful to discuss sex they will be less able to come forward if abuse happens – the abusers take advantage of of the nondiscussability…

    1. Gotham Gal

      Very true

  3. jason wright

    It’s never been clear in my mind what ‘shrink’ means in the context of American psychoanalysis.

      1. jason wright

        “Another theory holds that it implicitly refers to shrinking a patient’s narcissistic, inflated sense of self. Although many mental-health professionals have come to accept the term with self-deprecating humor, it has also been criticized as a relic of an outmoded therapeutic approach that reduces people to mere causes and symptoms rather than regarding them as complex individuals.”Is there enough space in my brain for all this information?

  4. AMT Editorial Staff

    As mom to 12 year old…sex always being discussed. We started around age 10 or even younger in terms of being “honest” with body questions. The goal is talk about it now while it’s still under radar so that when ON radar, it’s easy. So far, so good. Also, it’s a more open item with the visibility and talk about LBGTQ issues. Kids know. It opens the door to the topic in a current event way.Shrinks: Never felt that it was an “off” topicMoney: The more complicated one in our eyes

  5. Pointsandfigures

    want to see a cool psychology focused startup? (I am not an investor, but really like the CEO)

  6. AMT Editorial Staff

    This WSJ article in the Review section caught our eye after reading your post a couple of days ago! Therapy is 2nd nature for millennials…https://uploads.disquscdn.c

    1. jason wright

      Do journalists finish their training with an obligatory ‘generation’ cliche class?