I spoke to a group of women at Stern a few weeks ago. I keep thinking about the woman who came up and talked to me while I was outside waiting for my Uber. She had very young children and was building a business. She was frustrated and lamented how difficult it was to be a Mom, raise a family, have a relationship with her partner and build a business. I get it.
When we moved to the Westchester suburbs for five years I had just left the Garment industry. Literally I was fired the week before we moved. Timing was perfect. Even my Mother said to me when we moved up there that having two parents commute to work every day is not good. I didn’t really get what she was saying but it didn’t take me long to grasp what she meant.
Three quarters of the men at the top one percent have a spouse at home. The partners might have had the exact same education but somehow one of them ends up as the home caregiver. Of course, not always, but often. Care giving should be shared. Our companies should embrace that. You don’t need to show up at the office for 80 hours a week because you can do the work you can do anywhere.
The woman also said that being a homemaker for the last 8 years is a huge hole in her resume. I disagree. I would love to see more people put on their LinkedIn profiles and resumes that they were homemakers for those years. Raising kids is a full-time job and takes skills. Juggling doctors, playdates, getting food in the fridge, food on the table, driving around, making sure everyone has clothes, that everyone is safe and at the same time keeping your own sense of self is not for everyone. It is hard work, rarely recognized and one of the most important and meaningful jobs ever.
When will be the time that putting CEO of the “Wilson” Home on a resume will be applauded and desired from our companies because they embrace those skill sets and can hardly wait to hire that woman and bring her back to work that she gets paid for?