Some would say why would you read this? You already know what she is writing about. That is true but it does drive home the many issues in the industry and asks the question, “how did this type of male behavior, get to this place or why is the tech community like this”?
It started when these kids were young and raised by a generation of helicopter parents. They were told they could do anything they wanted. They were told every day how amazing they are. Punishment and failure were rare. Activities were planned, everything was about structure and achievement. Their lives have continued to be a perpetual summer camp.
How do we change bad behavior? Standing up and saying no, this is not ok is one way but we need to think broader. It starts in kindergarten and continues each year with a curriculum around equality.
I remember when sex education began. It was such a gasp for many outside of liberal enclaves. We need a new sex education that starts in kindergarten where we teach our kids not to bully others. Where we teach our kids that women and men are equal and we should respect each other for our differences. That rating of women’s looks and bodies is unacceptable period. We should be putting young girls in positions of leadership at a young age in a school environment with young men where they have to work together to get anything done. Every year the curriculum changes based on age so moving into sex education at one point and understanding no means no, sex is a two-way street and to respect each other’s bodies and minds.
Reading the behavior of men way past their college years is so disturbing and saddens me that the tech industry, particularly the one in SF, operates in this manner. It should be a real wake-up for the people funding this behavior because the reality is it starts at a young age and we are only enabling that behavior by continuing to ignore the cultures inside the businesses that we fund.