Weaponized Incompetence

I heard this saying last week. It involves someone pretending to be incapable or inept at a task, so someone else takes over to complete the task. Weaponized incompetence is taught unintentionally at a very young age, particularly between boys and girls. Boys will be boys, and girls are better at making sure everything gets done.

Women tend to pick up the slack at home and work. I have seen it countless times. A friend of mine, who was a VP at a major company, told me she helped her male peers with multiple things that she lamented they were terrible at, so she just did it. Her rationalization was that if she did it, then she knew it would get done, and that would be easier. Nothing like a juicy rationalization to do someone elses work.

The problem is that this perpetual cycle continues where women become second-class citizens to their male counterparts, although they are equal in their roles. Even Marjorie Taylor Greene, who said that she is “really sick and tired of the way men treat Republican women.” Unclear what made her wake up, but no shit. Has she paid attention to the comments coming out of the conservative Republicans including Pete Hegseth, who is shockingly our countries Secretary of Defense says women shouldn’t be allowed to vote.

We are slowly finding out how many men at high levels in the government and corporate America are using their power to have sex with young girls. When all that comes out, and let’s hope it does, I want to believe that there will be a reckoning, and we will get to a better place.

Weaponizing incompetence runs deep, and it holds women back. Women need to pay more attention to the tasks they are taking on, and the tasks their male counterparts feign to be unable to do. It is certainly time for women to say, no, you do it, or that’s your job not mine, and stop always being the helping hand.

I am over the male power game, and women need to heed weaponized incompetence. As mothers, we need to make sure that our boys do all the things that girls do, and vice versa. If the narrative doesn’t stop, then women will continue to have a hard time having an equal seat at the table.