men are from mars, women are from venus

Images My life is constantly a variety of moving parts.  Trying to get to my bedroom to take a shower this morning with workers ( punch list )  blocking my access almost through me over the edge.  Moving is tough but having teenage kids is even tougher. 

I pride myself on having an open door for all the kids friends but when they all descend on us at all hours of the night when the other members are the family are sleeping ( including the dog), is tough.  Coming back from freshman year at college when there are basically no rules is absolutely a tough transition for everyone.  It doesn't matter how minimal the rules are, there are rules.  Bummer.   This week, Jessica returning to the fold, although beyond thrilled to have her home, is one of my major moving parts. 

Between that and being the resident hand-holder, I am exhausted.  Thinking I need some serious rest and relaxation.  I am so mentally exhausted that I sat in a board meeting this week and barely said 50 words.  Maybe not a bad thing for all the other members but not my usual vocal self. 

In a household there is one person who is the brawn.  They open the jars, lift the heavy boxes, deals with the technology ( in our case )etc.  Then there is one person who is the guidance and ear for all the emotional nonsense.  I might have opened lots of boxes when we moved but I am not the brawn.  I am the emotional guidance.  Unfortunately for me, all my patients are in need of a sound ear instead of a box opener.  I am overbooked.

I never read the book men are from mars, women are from venus, but based on the heavy motherhood lifting I seem to be doing these days….I might be from venus but I in need of a calgon moment. 

Comments (Archived):

  1. njs

    I remember that first summer home from college – walking in at 6AM and laughing that my parents were concerned with my whereabouts. Lot’s of compromises were necessary on all parts, but honestly i think my parents had to develop more trust for my ability to use good judgement.

    1. Gotham Gal

      Good judgement is not easy at 19 and sometimes not even at 45

      1. njs

        True that – but I think you will agree that is our central mission as parents; to instill a decision-making process where our children have learned how to apply good judgement in situations. as a parent children need to know when their decision-making process has disappointed the adults. in that regard, you never stop parenting your children.

        1. Gotham Gal

          100 percent

  2. Yule Heibel

    I, too, can really relate to what you’re expressing here, Joanne. Maybe it’s the “kids home from uni/ college” thing, or maybe it’s something in the air, but I feel like an overstretched rubber band that has lost its oomph. As for workers/ trades people in the house – gah, that’s the worst. Haven’t dealt with that in a long time, but I know what you mean. Breathe deeply and tell yourself that this too shall pass! 🙂

    1. Gotham Gal

      Thanks Yule. The overstretched rubberband is spot on. Agree, this too shall pass!

  3. Rebecca

    we have a recent college graduate coming home…….. with only vacation plans so far.he wants to work on a senate campaign.

  4. Rebecca

    A man’s sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results.A woman’s sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems…….John Gray quotes……

    1. Gotham Gal

      Nice quote. Spot on