Life doesn’t have a playbook
You have an idea, you begin a company, you go from 2 people to 10 people to 100 people to 1500 people, your success is overwhelming, you have more money in the bank than you ever thought would be possible. Friends start to treat you differently, new ones start to cozy up to you. Stress starts to take over, you can’t sleep, you don’t take care of yourself, you start self-medicating and begin to feel extremely confused, alone and untrusting.
Nobody teaches you how to deal with success, money, and a life that you strove for. There is not a playbook for this. Some seem to rise to the occasion and are able to figure it out while others find themselves in deep dark holes. It is something that not enough people talk about in the tech community where we have seen people catapulted into success or failure in what seems like overnight.
We went from barely being able to pay for the weekly groceries, a house with post-college furniture in it, kids bedrooms decorated by me with a sewing machine and a paint brush, to moving back to the city with three kids in tow and a totally different bank account. It was life-changing but there was no playbook. Perhaps high-end problems but I keep thinking about Colin Kroll, the founder of HQ Trivia, an incredibly bright young man who at 34 overdosed. How insanely sad.
I am concerned we will see more downfalls in 2019 and there is no playbook for that either. The roller-coaster of highs and low can be overwhelming. Everything seems to change in an instant. One day you are riding high and the next day you are not or just the opposite. My only advice is to talk to someone who has gone through the same thing and has written their own playbook otherwise, the highs and the lows each have their own set of difficulties that are not that easy to work through alone.