By the numbers: The poll by Lean In, founded by Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg, found that 36% of men say they’ve purposefully avoided mentoring or socializing with a woman because they were “nervous about how it would look.”
Reading this just pisses me off. I mean WTF? All numbers are fungible. Meaning that I have zero idea who was part of the poll but my guess is the majority of people are in the SF tech industry.
What kind of culture are we creating out there? A society of one gender dimensional thinkers who are afraid of what? Getting caught or not knowing how to behave? Look at what just happened in Alabama and other states that are turning back women’s rights and making the underserved communities even worse. Take away the rights of women’s bodies so they will have more children who will grow up in poverty and put a drain on the system where we can control you? Not mentoring women might be a stretch in putting it in the same bucket but I am going to make that stretch.
Those men who are afraid to mentor women should realize that a world where we are all equal to each other is a better world. Are you afraid that you can’t control your sexual urges? What are you scared of? One on one meetings where it could be he said she said? Then for god sakes have mentorship meetings with others present if that is a better comfort zone but do not stop mentoring each other. Figure it out.
Men, just like women, should be standing on the rooftops and saying enough is enough. Women are finally rising up in bigger numbers and we are not going to take this shit anymore. More women in office, more women as CEO’s, more women founders, more females in power with a heftier wallet than their male counterparts will eventually change the dynamics. At one point, not that far in the future, our country will be predominantly brown, black, Asian, Latino and not white and women will have more control of the cash. The data is there.
There will be a comeuppance when women control the world and 36% of them decide that they feel uncomfortable mentoring men and start passing bills that force men of a certain age to have a vasectomy and take away their viagra. Just you wait.