We had lunch with a successful entrepreneur the other morning. He is super smart and data-focused so he is doing his own personal diligence on what makes a good long term relationship. He was curious about the success of Fred and my relationship. After all, we have been together for almost 40 years. How it works, what drew us to each other, how we have grown together, how we have raised our family and what we have taught each other. How do you go about finding that right person for you?
Dating is so completely different now. Everyone can easily hook up if they want to with a swipe of a finger but for some, that isn’t so easy. Some people are looking for a one night stand while others are looking for something more. Is this how you find the one? Some have and some have struggled. Some have a hard time just making a commitment. Many ask, how do I know this is the one?
So what did we tell him? We told a bunch of stories but in the end, we said it was about mutual respect across the board. Enjoying the same things. Wanting the same things out of life. Be able to learn from each other. Find someone who will push you forward and make you think differently. The most important is a relationship built on friendship.
I continue to think about our breakfast. I love that he is thinking about this and am honored that he chose us for his diligence. I meet so many people who get to a point where they are anxious about finding someone. I get it and it is definitely harder for women than it is for men. Women have a ticking biological clock and men do not.
It was fun for us going down memory lane and talking about our relationship over the years from the start to raising a family and where we are now. For the entrepreneur, I hope he got the data he was looking for.