Sexting in a small Colorado town..and possibly more

imagesThe news that over 300 high school students, some even in 8th grade, were involved in a sexting ring.  No surprises that the root of the “sexting ring” was the football team.  There really is no crime here because it appears as they all did this voluntarily.  Each state is different on this but what is most important is to ask the question why is this happening?

Another recent case was the prep school boy and a young girl who said she was raped.  The young man will serve some time.  What is fascinating is that he told the judge that the frat boys referred to the girls as cum-buckets.  It appeared as if they all looked at women as just objects more than anything else.  Why?

I heard of a story that happened more than 5 years ago of a young girl who had a party and asked her parents not to come downstairs while everyone was over.  The mother decided to do it anyway and found everyone downstairs naked, sitting in a circle and her daughter in the middle giving some boy a blowjob.  Why?

Social media is pervasive and kids are impressionable.  From the movies to the selfies to the ads that portray sex in a way that isn’t necessarily real.  This all comes down to educating kids.  Our kids went to a school where sex-ed starting in 5th grade and continued all the way thru high school.  Different topics based on the age but in the middle school it was the head of the school who taught it.  It makes an impact when there are open conversations because sex is a conversation.  Not everybody wants the same thing.

There are conversations now taking places on college campuses about what consent means.  It is amazing how many don’t know.  Sex education needs to start young.  We talk to our kids about drugs and alcohol.  We should talk to our kids about sex too.  We should not be shielding our children from the topic. My friend started a crisis-text line that is available 24/7 to help kids in crisis.  Maybe someone should start one for sex education.

Sex is out there on the web in force and based on what happened in the town in Colorado, there wasn’t a lot of conversation going on.  Decades ago people would laugh and say that they heard about sex from their older siblings or a kid at school, but now they heard and learned about it on their phone.  Probably not the best place for an education on sex.